Blog #25 Today's Presenters

I had my presentation this past Thursday for class. I got a lot of great feedback during class time. Here are the notes that were presented:

People have been bullied still have it with them. Patterns proof discourse. Emotions that people feel when bullied still feel that way, even after a long time after it happened.

Great Presentation! I can see you worked really hard for this research paper! I like your introduction and conclusion!

I think you hit a great topic and it's really good to know that your were able to share your own past experiences of being bullied also. Maybe this research helped you open up after you did the interview. Great job!

 I thought you did an excellent job with the presentation and I love the topic that you chose. you clearly stated how the topic is of importance and is something to consider. I feel like you should develop the conclusion a little bit more. I would like to see more of the points you made stated in the conclusion. great job!

I love your topic. I would check grammar again.. Check your paragraph order. but other than that LOVE it 

Great conclusion I love the last sentence! 

With all of this being said I will check my grammar and develop my conclusion...... Should I post my paper again on the blog????

Blog 24 draft of paper

I have finished the paper. This is just a first draft. 

Introduction

Bullying. Why is this topic so important? We hear this term a lot in schools, communities, colleges and society. This term has become very important since the Rutgers incident about two years ago. People were making fun of a student for being gay and he committed suicide because of this incident. More and more people need to become more aware of what the term bullying is and how it affects people of all ages. Now in the state of New Jersey teachers have to be trained in bullying, (harassment, intimidation, and bullying HIB) and cyber bullying. Bullying can be defined as, “a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearing person who habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weaker people.” (Dictionary.com)Teachers and adults need to know the signs of when a child is being bullied or picked on. This has become very prominent in the schools and the teachers who witness this have to take action to stop it.

Bullying can shape a child’s life for the good and the bad. Either a child learns to overcome it or deal with it or a child will let the bullying bother them through adulthood. We as a society have seen/ read about bullying affecting children. There have been many studies and articles done about childhood bullying. But have we ever read / discovered how adults who were bullied as children are doing today/ dealing with it or overcame bullying? That is why this study needs to be done! We as a society need to explore this situation to better familiar ourselves with adults who have been bullied and how they are doing today.

In a study done by Timo Terasahjo and Christine Salmivalli, they explore children being bullied today and seeing how they are coping with being bullied today. These people interviewed children between the grades of three through sixth. The interviewers were seeing how bullying occurs in a school setting.  I will challenge the way of how we should view adults who have been bullied and focus more of their story instead of just reading another article of how children are dealing with this.

I recently sat down with a young adult who shared her thoughts and views about how she was bullied as a child. I have gotten her feedback about how she dealt with this as a child and how she learned to overcome this part in her life now as an adult. The three codes that will be explored are language (how the person spoke during the interview and the wording choices), emotional connection (this is where the interviewee expressed a deep feeling from her childhood and it was an emotional connection for her) and how the person is dealing with being bullied today (this is where we will see the interviewee overcoming bullying how she is today).

Literature Review

This literature review is called “She is not actually bullied. The discourse of harassment in student groups.” By Timo Terasahjo and Christine Salmivalli. These two people interviewed and observed students in elementary school. They got the students input about how they feel about being bullied.  The researcher has found “Bullying an intentional harm doing, Bullying as harmless, Bullying as justified and Girl’s talk” (Terasahjo, Salmivalli). These are all the forms of bullying that the researchers have found by conducting the study.This study is a good idea to read if you only focus on children. I am more focused about how adults are dealing with bullying. Terasahjo and Salmivaii say, “anti-bullying attitudes were stronger than pro-bullying attitudes.” This might be true, but then how come we as a society always hear of a bullying case every day. We only hear the bad and never the good. I want to know more the positive outcomes of how adults dealt and overcame bullying. In the study the children identified bullying as, “…described indirect (e.g. spreading nasty rumors and social isolation) as well as direct (hitting, name calling) aggressive behavior.”  This is all typical behavior of elementary students. These students are treating others with not a lot of care. The children only care about themselves and that needs to stop. Children need to realize this behavior so that adults who have been bullied will have better outcomes.  Now the big question will be how those students are going to handle these situations. They need to be able to learn from these situations in order to grow and become strong adults. If the students let the other students bother them then the outcomes might be severe if they never learn to overcome being bullied.

“Bullying as justified, including the interpretative repertoires of “odd student” and “deserving” which construct the victim as a negatively deviant student who also deserves to be treated with hostility, are described.”

These are all things that need to be addressed as a young child. Children need to learn how to identify this behavior as negative and report this to an adult or a teacher. This type of behavior needs to stop in order for the children to grow up in a positive way.

Methods

            I interviewed KA in a home setting. I now that she felt more comfortable in a home setting rather than a public place. I don’t know if she would have wanted to conduct the interview with a lot of people and quite frankly it would be very noisy. She is now twenty years old and is a junior at a college in south New Jersey.

            I know that this person was bullied as a child and I wanted to get her feedback on her experience. I started out with easy questions and worked my way up. I wanted her to feel comfortable to start off with. I don’t think it would have been a very good idea to just jump right into the questions. I stated off with the easy questions first, where did you live, where did you go to school, how old are you now. I just wanted her to start talking. Then after the basic questions were out of the way it was time to get to the more intense questions. I started asking her questions about what it felt like to be bullied and what her thoughts were, if there was a support system for her and a support system for her now. I wanted to hear the stories that made up her experiences. This is very important because this is where a person who find out the most about another person. I lastly concluded with questions about how she is today and her feeling about bullying now and how it affects students today.

Data

            Since there is so much data collected, I have decided to break it up into three different sections. The titles of the sections are language, emotional connection and how she is dealing with being bullied today. All of these aspects will give the full overview of a young adult’s version of being bullied and how it affects her today.

Language

            I will be looking at the pause that is taken when speaking. In the interview you can see the pauses that KA has taken when giving her interview. This is all reflected about her experiences with bullying.

K:  well um do you remember if J was ever .like if there to help you with anything

KA:  yeah um I don’t know if she knew a lot of it was going on I can’t remember if she was… cause it all happened in my science teachers class so I don’t remember if she was in there or that class with me or not

K:  yeah

KA:  and I don’t know if anyone else at the time said anything I just …..

K:  yeah

KA:  it really mean and I did not know how…. to stick up for myself at that age so…. I just ended up…. kind of miserable 

            The three dots represent a long pause between words. KA was very hesitant when giving her answers. She stopped to take a lot of breaks when answering the different questions. You can tell that she is nervous when speaking by the ums and the pauses. It almost sounds like KA does not want to give out the wrong information to the interviewer. She wanted to sound correct in everything that was being said. These are her feelings and feelings are never wrong especially when it comes to this subject matter.

            KA also stumbles over the words that she has spoken. I am still not really sure what she thinks about bullying from the discussion that we had.

I don’t know…either that or they were just plain bullies …. And they just… maybe they did it to everybody else they just said some pretty harsh words and haha I forget what they were but haha I do remember crying during class and I remember it was 2 of the guys haha and…

            The haha pauses are just a way of trying to lighten up the mood. This laughing pause is a feel of uncertainty. She is trying to lighten up the mood on a very tough subject to handle. It is hard for anyone to talk about what happened to them when they were younger especially when it is something that hurts you directly.

Emotional Connection

            Everyone has deep emotion ties to something that has happened to them when they were younger especially when it hurts you. KA has a deep emotional connection that she is still unsure about. The information that she says is still not right with her heart. She says it but you can tell that she is still in the past with her language.

K:  did anyone give you like any special advice either teachers or friends or any special advice like how to handle all these situations

KA:  … back in the day probably not haha I just remembered after a while I started just crying and not taking to anybody cause I realized that if I said anything people would yeah that’s another reason why I was really quite in middle school was because I was afraid to say anything I was afraid of being bullied after that I was afraid that if I said something… and it came out the wrong way people would take it differently and start making fun of me so I don’t know if I got any real advise…. to me it was kind of like yeah I should not really say anything

            Her language sounds like she is back when she was nine years old. She has entered that aspect in her life and by the wording it sounds like she does not want to go back there. It still holds a place in her heart and exactly sure if she wants to break away from it. This still hold meaning to her that she does not want to let go. In this language she wants to say the right thing and that she does not want to sound wrong. But here she just let it all out and spoke what was truly in her heart. I am not exactly sure if she got over it in her head.

  How she is dealing with being bullied today

            When I asked KA these questions she was very confident. She is confident in her head and in her heart. In here she does not stumble on her words and is very confident when she is speaking with me.

K:  it’s so huge now the reports and everything its crazy but if you saw a child bullied today would what advice would you give them

KA:  what advice would I give them I would defiantly tell them to reach out and to talk to other people to get help like if its child being bullied like they should defiantly go to either a teacher of a friend or anybody and like somebody could intercept or do something about it like defiantly stick up for yourself don’t …. Don’t just take it … if somebody is being mean to you do something about it

KA:  I have a better perspective of what bullies like to do like how they go about bullying other people so I have I feel like I’ll be able to see that type of situation happening and if that happens I be able to like go and stop it from happening I will like be able to like talk to both parties and what’s like happening and make sure that they don’t do it either and talk to their parents

            In this part you can see that KA has a very positive outcome in life and that she has overcome bullying. She sounds more confident here than she did when she was describing her childhood. She talks without any pauses and has great advice for children who are being bullied today. It sounds like to me that she is okay with being bullied in the head and in the heart.

Discussion of Data

             Bullying affects everyone differently. For KA is only lasted a year and in the fourth grade. For me it happened when I was growing up from fifth grade through high school. KA was very tied to her emotions when she was going back and describing what happened when she was in in fourth grade. Her language and emotional connection had a big influence of the way that she presented herself. She was afraid to talk to other people because she did not want to get bullied. For me it was different. I was bullied because I have a learning disability and a speech problem with being overweight as a child. I was the perfect target for bullies. I took all of those things that the bullies said to me and really did think I was dumb and that no one liked me because I was overweight. 

            For KA she out grew is and was able to overcome being bullied. She has a great support system and has great advice for other people. She wants to be a teacher and help children so that they do not go through the same experience that she did. For me, I was finally able to outgrow having bullied affect me about two years ago.  I transitioned to a four year university after getting my associates degree from a local community college. My speech problem is gone and so is my weight. I lost all the weight and now at a healthy weight. As for being dumb, I am on two honor societies in my university. I do to want to become a teacher so that what I have experienced does not happen to any children.

Conclusion

            Being bullied affects everyone differently. It all depends on how you handle the situation. For KA she has a great outcome from being bullied and so do I. For any adults who are reading this and have been bullied, I hope that this helps to overcome being bullied or have another perspective on this situation. This subject is important to her. Now a days we always see how children right now are dealing with being bullied but very rarely do we see how adults are dealing with being bullied today. The language patterns that KA uses are very important when describing being bullied. How you are bullied is one thing, how you overcome and deal with it is another.

Works Cited

1.      "Language." Dictionary.com. N.p.. Web. 23 Apr 2013. <http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/language?s=t>.

2.      Terasahjo, Timo. ""She Is Not Actually Bullied." The Discourse of Harassment in Student Groups."Aggressive Behavior. 29. (2003): 134-154. Print.8

Blog 23 class from April 18, 2013

I worked on my introduction and lit review from the comments that I received here is the updated verison:

Introduction

Bullying. Why is this topic so important? We hear this term a lot in schools, communities, colleges and society. This term has become very important since the Rutgers incident about two years ago. People were making fun of a student for being gay and he committed suicide because of this incident. More and more people need to become more aware of what the term bullying is and how it affects people of all ages. Now in the state of New Jersey teachers have to be trained in bullying, (harassment, intimidation, and bullying HIB) and cyber bullying. Bullying can be defined as, “a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearing person who habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weaker people.” (Dictionary.com)Teachers and adults need to know the signs of when a child is being bullied or picked on. This has become very prominent in the schools and the teachers who witness this have to take action to stop it.

Bullying can shape a child’s life for the good and the bad. Either a child learns to overcome it or deal with it or a child will let the bullying bother them through adulthood. We as a society have seen/ read about bullying affecting children. There have been many studies and articles done about childhood bullying. But have we ever read / discovered how adults who were bullied as children are doing today/ dealing with it or overcame bullying? That is why this study needs to be done! We as a society need to explore this situation to better familiar ourselves with adults who have been bullied and how they are doing today.

In a study done by Timo Terasahjo and Christine Salmivalli, they explore children being bullied today and seeing how they are coping with being bullied today. These people interviewed children between the grades of three through sixth. The interviewers were seeing how bullying occurs in a school setting.  I will challenge the way of how we should view adults who have been bullied and focus more of their story instead of just reading another article of how children are dealing with this.

I recently sat down with a young adult who shared her thoughts and views about how she was bullied as a child. I have gotten her feedback about how she dealt with this as a child and how she learned to overcome this part in her life now as an adult. The three codes that will be explored are language (how the person spoke during the interview and the wording choices), emotional connection (this is where the interviewee expressed a deep feeling from her childhood and it was an emotional connection for her) and how the person is dealing with being bullied today (this is where we will see the interviewee overcoming bullying how she is today).

Literature Review

This literature review is called “She is not actually bullied. The discourse of harassment in student groups.” By Timo Terasahjo and Christine Salmivalli. These two people interviewed and observed students in elementary school. They got the students input about how they feel about being bullied.  The researcher has found “Bullying an intentional harm doing, Bullying as harmless, Bullying as justified and Girl’s talk” (Terasahjo, Salmivalli). These are all the forms of bullying that the researchers have found by conducting the study.This study is a good idea to read if you only focus on children. I am more focused about how adults are dealing with bullying. Terasahjo and Salmivaii say, “anti-bullying attitudes were stronger than pro-bullying attitudes.” This might be true, but then how come we as a society always hear of a bullying case every day. We only hear the bad and never the good. I want to know more the positive outcomes of how adults dealt and overcame bullying. In the study the children identified bullying as, “…described indirect (e.g. spreading nasty rumors and social isolation) as well as direct (hitting, name calling) aggressive behavior.”  This is all typical behavior of elementary students. These students are treating others with not a lot of care. The children only care about themselves and that needs to stop. Children need to realize this behavior so that adults who have been bullied will have better outcomes.  Now the big question will be how those students are going to handle these situations. They need to be able to learn from these situations in order to grow and become strong adults. If the students let the other students bother them then the outcomes might be severe if they never learn to overcome being bullied.

“Bullying as justified, including the interpretative repertoires of “odd student” and “deserving” which construct the victim as a negatively deviant student who also deserves to be treated with hostility, are described.”

These are all things that need to be addressed as a young child. Children need to learn how to identify this behavior as negative and report this to an adult or a teacher. This type of behavior needs to stop in order for the children to grow up in a positive way.

In class I also had a meeting to discuses the methods and data. Here are the notes 
* only one or two exaples per section
* language 
          - spacing, not wanting to give information, going back to childhood
* emotional connection
        - not right in the heart 
* Now
          - right in the head and in the heart, confident 

Also I worked on my methods and data here it is:

Methods

            I interviewed KA in a home setting. I now that she felt more comfortable in a home setting rather than a public place. I don’t know if she would have wanted to conduct the interview with a lot of people and quite frankly it would be very noisy. She is now twenty years old and is a junior at a college in south New Jersey.

            I know that this person was bullied as a child and I wanted to get her feedback on her experience. I started out with easy questions and worked my way up. I wanted her to feel comfortable to start off with. I don’t think it would have been a very good idea to just jump right into the questions. I stated off with the easy questions first, where did you live, where did you go to school, how old are you now. I just wanted her to start talking. Then after the basic questions were out of the way it was time to get to the more intense questions. I started asking her questions about what it felt like to be bullied and what her thoughts were, if there was a support system for her and a support system for her now. I wanted to hear the stories that made up her experiences. This is very important because this is where a person who find out the most about another person. I lastly concluded with questions about how she is today and her feeling about bullying now and how it affects students today.

Data

            Since there is so much data collected, I have decided to break it up into three different sections. The titles of the sections are language, emotional connection and how she is dealing with being bullied today. All of these aspects will give the full overview of a young adult’s version of being bullied and how it affects her today.

Language

            I will be looking at the pause that is taken when speaking. In the interview you can see the pauses that KA has taken when giving her interview. This is all reflected about her experiences with bullying.

K:  well um do you remember if J was ever .like if there to help you with anything

KA:  yeah um I don’t know if she knew a lot of it was going on I can’t remember if she was… cause it all happened in my science teachers class so I don’t remember if she was in there or that class with me or not

K:  yeah

KA:  and I don’t know if anyone else at the time said anything I just …..

K:  yeah

KA:  it really mean and I did not know how…. to stick up for myself at that age so…. I just ended up…. kind of miserable 

            The three dots represent a long pause between words. KA was very hesitant when giving her answers. She stopped to take a lot of breaks when answering the different questions. You can tell that she is nervous when speaking by the ums and the pauses. It almost sounds like KA does not want to give out the wrong information to the interviewer. She wanted to sound correct in everything that was being said. These are her feelings and feelings are never wrong especially when it comes to this subject matter.

            KA also stumbles over the words that she has spoken. I am still not really sure what she thinks about bullying from the discussion that we had.

I don’t know…either that or they were just plain bullies …. And they just… maybe they did it to everybody else they just said some pretty harsh words and haha I forget what they were but haha I do remember crying during class and I remember it was 2 of the guys haha and…

            The haha pauses are just a way of trying to lighten up the mood. This laughing pause is a feel of uncertainty. She is trying to lighten up the mood on a very tough subject to handle. It is hard for anyone to talk about what happened to them when they were younger especially when it is something that hurts you directly.

Emotional Connection

            Everyone has deep emotion ties to something that has happened to them when they were younger especially when it hurts you. KA has a deep emotional connection that she is still unsure about. The information that she says is still not right with her heart. She says it but you can tell that she is still in the past with her language.

K:  did anyone give you like any special advice either teachers or friends or any special advice like how to handle all these situations

KA:  … back in the day probably not haha I just remembered after a while I started just crying and not taking to anybody cause I realized that if I said anything people would yeah that’s another reason why I was really quite in middle school was because I was afraid to say anything I was afraid of being bullied after that I was afraid that if I said something… and it came out the wrong way people would take it differently and start making fun of me so I don’t know if I got any real advise…. to me it was kind of like yeah I should not really say anything

            Her language sounds like she is back when she was nine years old. She has entered that aspect in her life and by the wording it sounds like she does not want to go back there. It still holds a place in her heart and exactly sure if she wants to break away from it. This still hold meaning to her that she does not want to let go. In this language she wants to say the right thing and that she does not want to sound wrong. But here she just let it all out and spoke what was truly in her heart. I am not exactly sure if she got over it in her head.

  How she is dealing with being bullied today

            When I asked KA these questions she was very confident. She is confident in her head and in her heart. In here she does not stumble on her words and is very confidents when she is speaking with me.

K:  it’s so huge now the reports and everything its crazy but if you saw a child bullied today would what advice would you give them

KA:  what advice would I give them I would defiantly tell them to reach out and to talk to other people to get help like if its child being bullied like they should defiantly go to either a teacher of a friend or anybody and like somebody could intercept or do something about it like defiantly stick up for yourself don’t …. Don’t just take it … if somebody is being mean to you do something about it

KA:  I have a better perspective of what bullies like to do like how they go about bullying other people so I have I feel like I’ll be able to see that type of situation happening and if that happens I be able to like go and stop it from happening I will like be able to like talk to both parties and what’s like happening and make sure that they don’t do it either and talk to their parent

 In this part you can see that KA has a very positive outcome in life and that she has overcome bullying. She sounds more confident here than she did when she was describing her childhood. She talks without any pauses and has great advice for children who are being bullied today. It sounds like to me that she is okay with being bullied in the head and in the heart. 

Blog # 22 three questions with the blog sections

Here are the three blog sections that I have chosen:

 6.  K: So between those rivals did there was there any situation or conflict that’s like conflicts between you guys that you could remember. I now that it was a while ago

KA:  yeah well I don’t know if I would called the people who bullied me my rivals but

K:  well the bullier or bulliee ee

KA:  yeah

K:  The bullier

KA:  yeah

K:  yeah

KA:  should I describe that conflict or.

K:  well I guess you had some

KA:  what

K:  well um do you remember if J was ever .like if there to help you with anything

KA:  yeah um I don’t know if she knew a lot of it was going on I can’t remember if she was… cause it all happened in my science teachers class so I don’t remember if she was in there or that class with me or not

K:  yeah

KA:  and I don’t know if anyone else at the time said anything I just …..

K:  yeah

KA:  it really mean and I did not know how…. to stick up for myself at that age so…. I just ended up…. kind of miserable

K:  aww

7. K:  Do you like remember when it happened during science?

KA:  I can’t remember when it happened during science  I just um I know I must have said something that wasn’t that educated or I don’t know…either that or they were just plain bullies …. And they just… maybe they did it to everybody else they just said some pretty harsh words and haha I forget what they were but haha I do remember crying during class and I remember it was 2 of the guys haha and…

K: you said that this was in 4th grade

KA:  it was in 4th grade yeah…

K:  did this happen in 5th grade or

KA:  umm in 5th grade I don’t think they were in any of my classes so it did not really carry over and in middle school at the time I never … like I know he was in one of my classes

K:  yeah

 KA:  but nothing was ever said after that haha because I think everyone became a bit more mature

K:  yeah well you would hope that they wouldn’t be the way that they still are today

KA:  yeah hahaha I hope they would be matured after that and haha

K:  cause sometimes they know and sometimes they still feel like the world still revolves around them

KA:  yeah exactly I don’t even think … honestly if I even ask them I don’t think they would remember  being mean to me back in the day I don’t

K:  yeah that’s funny

8. K:  did anyone give you like any special advice either teachers or friends or any special advice like how to handle all these situations

KA:  … back in the day probably not haha I just remembered after a while I started just crying and not taking to anybody cause I realized that if I said anything people would yeah that’s another reason why I was really quite in middle school was because I was afraid to say anything I was afraid of being bullied after that I was afraid that if I said something… and it came out the wrong way people would take it differently and start making fun of me so I don’t know if I got any real advise…. to me it was kind of like yeah I should not really say anything

K:  well

KA:  I have a fear of

K: well now you know that you cannot be afraid of anything

KA:  Yeah

K:  yeah who really cares now

KA:  yeah

K:  like if there’s a point it is like well then you are just going to go do your own thing but like whatever

KA:  exactly

K:  who cares

KA:  if somebody doesn’t agree with you then some pass

K:  yeah it doesn’t matter

KA:  not really yeah haha

K:  okay do you have any like now like speaking like right now have anyone special that you can go talk to if like if something like this were to happen again

KA:  oh yeah I have a good support system now I know my friends will be will to help me like if I came to you about something your be willing to help me with anything and S of course

K:  yeah do you have any friends at college that

KA:  yeah I have friends at college who would be willing like there a great support system now I go and talk to N about anything that’s on my mind at the time I talk to her about all my classes and stuff like that I’m pretty sure that if somebody started bullying me she would be the first person to stick up for me

K:  yeah it is kind of like your own little therapy session going on right there

KA:  hahaha exactly

K:  ands it’s free

KA:  if she there’s for me I’m there for her yeah that great

K:  yeah now speaking of like today the bully laws are so strict now like I actually had to get trained to do the whole bullying and cyber bullying thing

KA:  yeah

K:  it’s so huge now the reports and everything its crazy but if you saw a child bullied today would what advice would you give them

KA:  what advice would I give them I would defiantly tell them to reach out and to talk to other people to get help like if its child being bullied like they should defiantly go to either a teacher of a friend or anybody and like somebody could intercept or do something about it like defiantly stick up for yourself don’t …. Don’t just take it … if somebody is being mean to you do something about it

K:  hum

KA:  yeah don’t shy off the world which is what I did for a little while…. stick up for yourself

K:  yeah but as much as

KA:  don’t throw punches

K:  no no haha

KA:  haha

K:  oh no that would cause more trouble

KA:  yeah

K:  oh my goodness um now will you going through this experience for your own sake how will… will like will it help you in like your future and everything to try to like see things

KA:  yeah I think I have a better perspective of of how people being bullied and how the situation like I am going to work at a camp so

K:  hum

KA:  I have a better perspective of what bullies like to do like how they go about bullying other people so I have I feel like I’ll be able to see that type of situation happening and if that happens I be able to like go and stop it from happening I will like be able to like talk to both parties and what’s like happening and make sure that they don’t do it either and talk to their parents

K:  yeah that a good way

KA:  yeah make sure to stop it before it happens

K:  so is there anything else that you would like to say about this topic or any like other notes that you would like to say

KA:  ummm I don’t know if you see somebody being bullied haha do your best to prevent it

K:  haha

KA:  don’t let that child be bullied

K:  yeah

KA:  and don’t let yourself be bullied stand up for yourself hahaha um

The three questions 

1. What three section/ stories feel most important to your focus?

-Done 

2. What does the data show with respect to my focus?

- The three sections show what categories I have chosen the language, emotional connection and how they are dealing with being bullied today?

3. Which quotes would best illustrate the the points from question 2? 

- Language:

 K:  well um do you remember if J was ever .like if there to help you with anything

KA:  yeah um I don’t know if she knew a lot of it was going on I can’t remember if she was… cause it all happened in my science teachers class so I don’t remember if she was in there or that class with me or not

K:  yeah

KA:  and I don’t know if anyone else at the time said anything I just …..

K:  yeah

KA:  it really mean and I did not know how…. to stick up for myself at that age so…. I just ended up…. kind of miserable 

K:  Do you like remember when it happened during science?

KA:  I can’t remember when it happened during science  I just um I know I must have said something that wasn’t that educated or I don’t know…either that or they were just plain bullies …. And they just… maybe they did it to everybody else they just said some pretty harsh words and haha I forget what they were but haha I do remember crying during class and I remember it was 2 of the guys haha and…

K: you said that this was in 4th grade

KA:  it was in 4th grade yeah…

K:  did this happen in 5th grade or

KA:  umm in 5th grade I don’t think they were in any of my classes so it did not really carry over and in middle school at the time I never … like I know he was in one of my classes

K:  okay do you have any like now like speaking like right now have anyone special that you can go talk to if like if something like this were to happen again

KA:  oh yeah I have a good support system now I know my friends will be will to help me like if I came to you about something your be willing to help me with anything and S of course

K:  yeah do you have any friends at college that

KA:  yeah I have friends at college who would be willing like there a great support system now I go and talk to N about anything that’s on my mind at the time I talk to her about all my classes and stuff like that I’m pretty sure that if somebody started bullying me she would be the first person to stick up for me    very strong in these two sections in terms of language

-Emotional Connection:

K:  well um do you remember if J was ever .like if there to help you with anything

KA:  yeah um I don’t know if she knew a lot of it was going on I can’t remember if she was… cause it all happened in my science teachers class so I don’t remember if she was in there or that class with me or not

K:  Do you like remember when it happened during science?

KA:  I can’t remember when it happened during science  I just um I know I must have said something that wasn’t that educated or I don’t know…either that or they were just plain bullies …. And they just… maybe they did it to everybody else they just said some pretty harsh words and haha I forget what they were but haha I do remember crying during class and I remember it was 2 of the guys haha and…

K:  did anyone give you like any special advice either teachers or friends or any special advice like how to handle all these situations

KA:  … back in the day probably not haha I just remembered after a while I started just crying and not taking to anybody cause I realized that if I said anything people would yeah that’s another reason why I was really quite in middle school was because I was afraid to say anything I was afraid of being bullied after that I was afraid that if I said something… and it came out the wrong way people would take it differently and start making fun of me so I don’t know if I got any real advise…. to me it was kind of like yeah I should not really say anything

-How they are dealing with being bullied today

K:  yeah do you have any friends at college that

KA:  yeah I have friends at college who would be willing like there a great support system now I go and talk to N about anything that’s on my mind at the time I talk to her about all my classes and stuff like that I’m pretty sure that if somebody started bullying me she would be the first person to stick up for me

K:  it’s so huge now the reports and everything its crazy but if you saw a child bullied today would what advice would you give them

KA:  what advice would I give them I would defiantly tell them to reach out and to talk to other people to get help like if its child being bullied like they should defiantly go to either a teacher of a friend or anybody and like somebody could intercept or do something about it like defiantly stick up for yourself don’t …. Don’t just take it … if somebody is being mean to you do something about it

KA:  I have a better perspective of what bullies like to do like how they go about bullying other people so I have I feel like I’ll be able to see that type of situation happening and if that happens I be able to like go and stop it from happening I will like be able to like talk to both parties and what’s like happening and make sure that they don’t do it either and talk to their parents

Introduction and Literature Review so far

Introduction

            Bullying. Why is this topic so important? We hear this term a lot in schools, communities, colleges and society.  This term has become very important since the Rutgers incident about two years ago. Now in the state of New Jersey teachers have to be trained in bullying, (harassment, intimidation, and bullying HIB) and cyber bullying. Bullying can be defined as, “a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearing person who habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weaker people.” (Dictionary.com)Teachers and adults need to know the signs of when a child is being bullied or picked on. This has become very prominent in the schools and the teachers who witness this have to take action to stop it.

            Bullying can shape a child’s life for the good and the bad. Either a child learns to overcome it or deal with it or a child will let the bullying bother them through adulthood. We as a society have seen/ read about bullying affecting children. There have been many studies and articles done about childhood bullying. But have we ever read / discovered how adults who were bullied as children are doing today/ dealing with it or overcame bullying? That is why this study needs to be done! We as a society need to explore this situation to better familiar ourselves with adults who have been bullied and how they are doing today.

            In a study done by Timo Terasahjo and Christine Salmivalli, they explore children being bullied today and seeing how they are coping with being bullied today. I will challenge the way of how we should view adults who have been bullied and focus more of their story instead of just reading another article of how children are dealing with this.

            I recently sat down with a young adult who shared her thoughts and views about how she was bullied as a child. I have gotten her feedback about how she dealt with this as a child and how she learned to overcome this part in her life now as an adult. The three codes that will be explored are language, emotional connection and sentence structure.

Literature Review

                   This literature review is called “She is not actually bullied. The discourse of harassment in student groups.” By Timo Terasahjo and Christine Salmivalli. These two people interviewed and observed students in elementary school. They got the students input about how they feel about being bullied. This study is a good idea to read if you only focus on children. I am more focused about how adults are dealing with bullying. Terasahjo and Salmivaii say, “anti-bullying attitudes were stronger than pro-bullying attitudes.” This might be true, but then how come we as a society always hear of a bullying case every day. We only hear the bad and never the good. I want to know more the positive outcomes of how adults dealt and overcame bullying. In the study the children identified bullying as, “…described indirect (e.g. spreading nasty rumors and social isolation) as well as direct (hitting, name calling) aggressive behavior.”  This is all typical behavior of elementary students. Now the big question will be how those students are going to handle these situations. They need to be able to learn from these situations in order to grow and become strong adults. If the students let the other students bother them then the outcomes might be severe if they never learn to overcome being bullied.

“Bullying as justified, including the interpretative repertoires of “odd student” and “deserving” which construct the victim as a negatively deviant student who also deserves to be treated with hostility, are described.”  

These are all things that need to be addressed as a young child. Children need to learn how to identify this behavior as negative and report this to an adult or a teacher. This type of behavior needs to stop in order for the children to grow up in a positive way. 

Interview

1.       K: So…How old are you?

KA: Right now I am 20 years old

K: 20

KA: yeah

K: ah ha

KA:  haha

K: hahaha

2.       K: Where did you go to school when you were in elementary school?

KA: I went to S A school

K: Which was what grades

KA: S A  was kindergarten through….wait… which was 3 – 5 grade

3.        K:  How did you like your elementary school teachers?

KA:  I love my elementary school teachers I had 4^th grade teacher  and she was always my favorite teacher I had her in my 4^th grade.

K: I remember her

KA: yeah

K: wait didn’t she marry like M P

KA: no I think they had the same last names but I don’t think they were married

KA: ahhhhhhhh

KA: did they… M P was the janitor

K:  Yeah I know he married somebody

KA:  yeah did he I think…

K: I don’t know

KA:  he had a street name named after him but hahaha

K: Who did you have for fifth grade

KA:  ahh 5^th grade teacher I think

K: ahh S had him

KA:  yeah. He was a great teacher

K: yeah he is awesome. I think he is at the middle school

KA:  is he… I did not know that

K: yeah he is the iss teacher

KA:  oh good for him

K: I know um oh my goodness

KA:  oh you are right I did remember seeing him there… he probably won’t remember me at all

K:  oh how sad

KA:  it is so long ago

K:  haha

KA:  I feel old

K: haha okay

4.       K: Did you have any friends in in your k-5 class when you were in, when you were at S?

KA:  yeah um when I moved to fourth grade. I mean when I moved to M. I moved to M in 4^th grade. I automatically became friends with J M and I continued to be like one of her friends until even now

K: oh yeah okay that good its good support system for you

KA:  yeah

K:  so you are still close to her of course

KA:  of course haha

K:  hahaha

KA:  yeah she is my best friend yeah she is one of my best friends

K:  yeah

KA:  yeah

K:  What did you and Julie do together

KA:  ummmmm we hung out outside of school a couple of times when I was um younger. She found my house because our older brothers were also friends at the same time

K:  oh yeah

KA:  so haha

KA:  I do remember they were always

KA:  yeah

K:  at your house and what not..how funny

KA:  yeah

K:  I I never knew that

KA:  yeah our brothers I guess. M he stayed back a year so he is a little bit older than B so a lot of of people forget that they were in the same grade for a while

K:  yeah

KA:  well kinda

K:  okkaayy are they still friends

KA:  noo not any more they lost touch a long time ago they probably lost touch in high school probably

K:  yeah I can see that

KA:  yeah but Julie continued to be my friend which is good haha hum

5.       K:  Did you have any rivals or anybody that you did not like

KA:  there were mean people and at S … there…. Where people who did not like me and I don’t know why I guess I

K:  you have the twin disease

K and KA:  hahahahaha

KA: yeah C was also my rival

K:  hahahaha

KA:  my twin hahaha

K:  yeah I think you have twin disease

KA:  hahaha

K:  see no one really liked me either

KA:  yeah oh they liked your twin

KA:  yeah

K:  yeah they liked S a lot better

KA:  C was probably liked more than I was in that grade

K:  yeah yeah S was to

KA:  he like to play video games and he was friends with a lot of other people

K:  that played video games

KA:  hahaha yeah

K:  of course it was the cool thing to do

KA:  yeah haha I played Pokémon back then

K:  oh my god my kids still have the Pokémon cards

KA:  oh

K:  yeah they are so funny I cannot pronounce half of the names now. They take out the book and go hey

KA:  they have a billion names now

K:  yeah they have a book that thick of Pokémon cards

KA:  wow that is a lot

K: yeah it is huge

KA:  haha holy crap

K:  yeah

KA:  haha 

6.       K: So between those rivals did there was there any situation or conflict that’s like conflicts between you guys that you could remember. I now that it was a while ago

KA:  yeah well I don’t know if I would called the people who bullied me my rivals but

K:  well the bullier or bulliee ee

KA:  yeah

K:  The bullier

KA:  yeah

K:  yeah

KA:  should I describe that conflict or.

K:  well I guess you had some

KA:  what

K:  well um do you remember if J was ever .like if there to help you with anything

KA:  yeah um I don’t know if she knew a lot of it was going on I can’t remember if she was… cause it all happened in my science teachers class so I don’t remember if she was in there or that class with me or not

K:  yeah

KA:  and I don’t know if anyone else at the time said anything I just …..

K:  yeah

KA:  it really mean and I did not know how…. to stick up for myself at that age so…. I just ended up…. kind of miserable 

K:  aww

7.       K:  Do you like remember when it happened during science?

KA:  I can’t remember when it happened during science  I just um I know I must have said something that wasn’t that educated or I don’t know…either that or they were just plain bullies …. And they just… maybe they did it to everybody else they just said some pretty harsh words and haha I forget what they were but haha I do remember crying during class and I remember it was 2 of the guys haha and…

K: you said that this was in 4^th grade

KA:  it was in 4^th grade yeah…

K:  did this happen in 5^th grade or

KA:  umm in 5^th grade I don’t think they were in any of my classes so it did not really carry over and in middle school at the time I never … like I know he was in one of my classes

K:  yeah

 KA:  but nothing was ever said after that haha because I think everyone became a bit more mature

K:  yeah well you would hope that they wouldn’t be the way that they still are today

KA:  yeah hahaha I hope they would be matured after that and haha

K:  cause sometimes they know and sometimes they still feel like the world still revolves around them

KA:  yeah exactly I don’t even think … honestly if I even ask them I don’t think they would remember  being mean to me back in the day I don’t

K:  yeah that’s funny

KA:  yeah I wonder … makes you wonder if they remember being bullie I mean being bullies back in the day

K:  yeah I thought you meant well the same thing happened to me at S so you would probly know all about

KA:  yeah

K:  the same thing in Sussex and you probably know I would talk to them in high school and well they had no clue

KA:  yeah they don’t remember

K:    they had no clue they don’t remember

KA:  haha I am always contemplating asking him and he was so mean but he like does not even remember ha so that it will not be worth It nah

K:  um so did like in these situations do you remember like your friends helping you.. if anything

KA:  I ahhhh wish I could remember it is was a long time ago so I can’t really I’m sure there were some people who I mean I was crying in class so .I um so pretty sure somebody came up to me and or that the teacher did something about it

K:  did the science teacher do anything or you remember if he the science teacher did anything

KA:  I can’t remember but he must have I mean if I was breaking down in class like that he must have took me aside or probly asked if it was going on

K:  oh

KA: I   can’t remember though it is so long ago

K:  probly

KA:  yeah

K:  something

KA:  he had to

K:  yeah

KA:  I probly talked to J about it at the end of the day so I … I know I spoke to one of them after um a little while after it was not the main bullie it was just somebody laughing about it and did not do anything. He remember that they were really mean to me back in the day and he apologized

K:  oh

KA:  for not sticking up

K:  aww that’s good how do they call it, they by standard

KA:  yeah the by standard

K:  quote quote quote the by standard on my goodness

KA:  yeah it made me feel better that he realized that he was being rude but 

K:  observably he figured it out and did not do anything more

KA:  yeah ha and hopefully after that he sticks up for people but after realizing that he did not do anything added on to it

K:  how old was he when he realized that like did he say it was

KA:  we did not rally talk about it until early high school  the other kid 

K:  humph

 KA:  he prob did not do anything mad a little bit not even a little bit 

K:  humph I wish people appoliged to me

KA:  ha yeah ha

K:  I wish

KA:  yeah while growing up

K:  I know it is so bad

KA:  yeah

K:  I feel bad for the kids

KA:  ahha gota admit I did not as bad as some people go through

K:  yeah so how did it like for you when it happened like how did you handle the situation like did you just like do you remember like how you handled it like right then and there when it was going on or like it was just like a big huge confusion thing going on

KA:  it was a confusion it was first time people ever really be rude to me and I did not know what to do about it so haha of course I was crying in class and….. I don’t know

K:  did you

KA:  it was probly

K:  sorry go ahead

KA:  did I tell my parents ….i don’t think I told my parents I was… young and I …I don’t know I just… it probly stopped at some point because I …. Like fourth grade was generally ….like okay for me it wasn’t too bad so it proboly stoped at one point and maybe I did tell my parents about that.. And that’s why it stopped but …. I don’t know it was so long ago …. That I can’t remember like … how it was handled

K:  im trying to remember I don’t …. I don’t know I don’t remember

KA:  yeah yeah  hahaha 

K:  hahaha

KA:   did I ever come to you guys about it probably not

K:  I don’t think so cause I was going through the same things you were… I was going through my own weird things at that point

KA:  everybody was going through their own things haha

K:  yeah

KA:  I don’t know I proboly went to Julie she was honestly one of my best friends at that point and I hung out with her all the time so I proboly did go to her

K:  yeah cause you 2 are the same age and the same class and everything

KA:  yeah yeah she was in my 4^th grade class I had her with 4^th grade teacher  

K:  okay….. That’s cool now were you …how did you overcome being in like that situation …like how did you overcome it

KA:  um I don’t know I guess I didn’t let it bring me down … I was crying in class but that was only probly only lasted a day or 2 I don’t know … I know they were rude to me but after that grade I never really had to see them because they weren’t in my classes any more

K:  ohhh okay so

KA:  then

K:  so you switched 4^th and 5^th

KA:  yeah because um I had 4^th grade teacher and then …. Once you go to fifth grade you have somebody else and they weren’t  in that class with me … I had 5^th grade teacher  and they were in different classes so after that it did not really happen as it did not happen at all then um in middle school we all went our separate ways and

K:  yeah like

KA:  after that it was never really an issue they were the only people who were just mean to me back then

K:  yeah you are not confined to that one classroom anymore you are in multiple classrooms to … if you don’t really like someone they …. Okay go see ya I am going somewhere else

KA:  yeah

K:  that type of deal

KA:  yeah thankfully everybody else was nice

K:  yeah   

KA:  they were the only ones

K:  oh my goodness can you remember you’re like like your science teacher must have said something

KA:  he probably did  that I mean … in a classroom with only 20 something students you’re bound to see everything that is happening he probably knew what  was happening… he probably intercepted it he had to have seen that I was breaking down in class and crying cause of what they were saying to me

K:  yeah

KA:  which probably made them stop

K:  yeah it’s good

KA:  for a little

K:  yeah for a little while yeah because they would see an adult figure and like a teacher saying hey like

KA:  you need to cut this out

K:  yeah okay like you’re really means business and all that

KA:  haha

K:  yeah you need to stop that

KA:  I remember having fun in his class to so it was not all bad

K:  okay oh my goodness

KA:  he made me first stating to like science so

K:  did anyone give you like any special advice either teachers or friends or any special advice like how to handle all these situations

KA:  … back in the day probably not haha I just remembered after a while I started just crying and not taking to anybody cause I realized that if I said anything people would yeah that’s another reason why I was really quite in middle school was because I was afraid to say anything I was afraid of being bullied after that I was afraid that if I said something… and it came out the wrong way people would take it differently and start making fun of me so I don’t know if I got any real advise…. to me it was kind of like yeah I should not really say anything

K:  well

KA:  I have a fear of

K: well now you know that you cannot be afraid of anything

KA:  Yeah

K:  yeah who really cares now

KA:  yeah

K:  like if there’s a point it is like well then you are just going to go do your own thing but like whatever

KA:  exactly

K:  who cares

KA:  if somebody doesn’t agree with you then some pass

K:  yeah it doesn’t matter

KA:  not really yeah haha

K:  okay do you have any like now like speaking like right now have anyone special that you can go talk to if like if something like this were to happen again

KA:  oh yeah I have a good support system now I know my friends will be will to help me like if I came to you about something your be willing to help me with anything and S of course

K:  yeah do you have any friends at college that

KA:  yeah I have friends at college who would be willing like there a great support system now I go and talk to N about anything that’s on my mind at the time I talk to her about all my classes and stuff like that I’m pretty sure that if somebody started bullying me she would be the first person to stick up for me

K:  yeah it is kind of like your own little therapy session going on right there

KA:  hahaha exactly

K:  ands it’s free

KA:  if she there’s for me I’m there for her yeah that great

K:  yeah now speaking of like today the bully laws are so strict now like I actually had to get trained to do the whole bullying and cyber bullying thing

KA:  yeah

K:  it’s so huge now the reports and everything its crazy but if you saw a child bullied today would what advice would you give them

KA:  what advice would I give them I would defiantly tell them to reach out and to talk to other people to get help like if its child being bullied like they should defiantly go to either a teacher of a friend or anybody and like somebody could intercept or do something about it like defiantly stick up for yourself don’t …. Don’t just take it … if somebody is being mean to you do something about it

K:  hum

KA:  yeah don’t shy off the world which is what I did for a little while…. stick up for yourself

K:  yeah but as much as

KA:  don’t throw punches

K:  no no haha

KA:  haha

K:  oh no that would cause more trouble

KA:  yeah

K:  oh my goodness um now will you going through this experience for your own sake how will… will like will it help you in like your future and everything to try to like see things

KA:  yeah I think I have a better perspective of of how people being bullied and how the situation like I am going to work at a camp so

K:  hum

KA:  I have a better perspective of what bullies like to do like how they go about bullying other people so I have I feel like I’ll be able to see that type of situation happening and if that happens I be able to like go and stop it from happening I will like be able to like talk to both parties and what’s like happening and make sure that they don’t do it either and talk to their parents

K:  yeah that a good way

KA:  yeah make sure to stop it before it happens

K:  so is there anything else that you would like to say about this topic or any like other notes that you would like to say

KA:  ummm I don’t know if you see somebody being bullied haha do your best to prevent it

K:  haha

KA:  don’t let that child be bullied

K:  yeah

KA:  and don’t let yourself be bullied stand up for yourself hahaha um

K:  thank you very much for talking to me about this situation I really appreciate it